Hello, mamas! The second installment of my Surviving Motherhood series is all about the shift in perspective that happens once you become a mother. I don’t want to speak for anyone else or imply this is how you should feel, so I’ll share the shift in perspective I’ve experienced since becoming a mother.
For me, becoming a mother completely opened up my world and gave me a clear vision of who I am called to be and what I am called to do. First and foremost, I am a caretaker! I think I’ve always been this way but hadn’t really been able to truly tap into it until I had my daughter. I love to take care of people, tend to their needs, fill their cup. Now I get to do this everyday.
I have a defined purpose. I am a mother. I am a parent. I am a life-giver.
I am sure you can relate on some level, but the things I once worried about just aren’t as important to me anymore. Having a child forces you to step outside of your own bubble and focus on the health and wellbeing of someone else. It requires SELFLESSNESS. This is not to say that I have put myself and my needs aside. It’s actually made me look inwardly to ensure I’m taking proper care of myself so I can give my best to my family.
I know that this is exactly where I’m supposed to be. This has allowed me to seek guidance in the areas I want to grow in. I know I’m supposed to be her mother. I know I’m supposed to pursue the creative outlets that my heart craves. I know I’m supposed to build something. I’ve been filled with motivation I haven’t had before and that makes me feel really hopeful that I’m following God’s plan for my life.
My faith has grown exponentially. I can feel God working in my life every single day. He has shown me grace when I fail. He has given me a clearer vision for my life. He has taken people out of my life, and He has given me friendships I’ll never take for granted. He has surrounded me with encouragement, love, acceptance, security and understanding. My faith is ever-growing, and that in itself is a huge shift.
My “need” for things has nearly diminished. I used to put so much pressure to have an abundance of things; clothes, home decor, cosmetics, social following. It held a certain weight in my life that would cause me anxiety if I didn’t have something I thought I needed. After having a child, the need to fill my life with “things” just seems wasteful. It’s not meaningful. What I look for now is how I can serve others. How I can start practicing kindness in situations that are testing. Speaking life over my daughter and my loved ones. Finding opportunities to create something. Those are the things that fill my heart and give me happiness. I know this may seem ironic since I just posted about my fall + winter wishlist; the difference is that these things don’t hold a heavy weight on me. If I get something new, AWESOME! If I wait and don’t buy a single thing, EVEN MORE AWESOME BECAUSE SAVING MONEY IS COOL!
I could write on this topic all day, and I might even keep this as a “living document” and update it as things continue to shift in my life. There have been days where I wake up and the whole world just flows harmoniously and everything feels absolutely perfect, even in the chaos. Those moments are really when I’m like, whoa my life is exactly as it should be; and that gives me so much peace of mind.
I’d love to hear from you. What are some shifts in your life that have happened since becoming a parent?